Hello, I am a 35 and 40 year old mother of children.

And I worry a lot about them and their children. I have to worry when one of them is out of work, when I have to "lend them money", should I ask for it back? Sometimes I think they're too strict with their children, that their houses aren't tidy enough, that they're not well looked after...I also think I do too much for them....these are the kinds of questions my friends and I ask ourselves...could you help us with this? Many thanks for your daily help.